Fear of Change
Later this year, as the Maya Long Count Calendar comes to a close, we will be completing a huge cosmic cycle and entering a new era. We have been dealing with change for years and now even more change is on its way. We all know change is a constant; it runs through our lives day after day, year after year. You would think we would be used to it by now, but it still seems to bring up immense fear for many of us.
Maybe it is time to get over that, to welcome change, to befriend it, to learn from it. It definitely feels like it is time to stop fighting it.
I think the Ancient Maya had a very different perspective on change. They not only accepted change, they initiated it. They welcomed the wisdom and knowledge of the universe, grounded it in Mother Earth, and created something beautiful and lasting. They finished what they came here to do and left it for us to discover when we were ready. As you walk through the majestic sites of Uxmal, Chichen Itza, Palenque, Tikal, you know the architects of these structures and the teachers in these temples changed the world around them. Did they not have to deal with the fear that we seem to attach to change?
Of course, if they lived in a more balanced world, one where the material was balanced with the spiritual, that would make a difference. Today our world is so out of balance and so focused on the material world. When we look at change from the material side only, we see change as loss. I hear people talking about losing their youth, losing their jobs, losing their parents, their friends, and on and on. Maybe it is time to reframe our views of change and change the way we look at change. Maybe we can start looking at completing things, rather than losing them.
I completed my youth and became an adult. I enjoyed being young but I also enjoy being an adult. I want to work at being a better adult and I don’t believe that hanging on to my youth will help me do that. As much as I thought I knew everything when I was 20, the truth is that I did not. That part of my life is complete and although I can remember it, visit it, learn from my experiences during it, and honor it, I cannot be young forever.
Accepting the passage of my youth is not easy to accept in a world that equates youth with beauty, health, passion, and all the good things in life. Fortunately, I have a beautiful, healthy, and passionate mother who will be 95 this year and who, by example, helps me keep all of this in prospective. She is currently teaching a 93-year-old woman how to paint with watercolors. Somewhere along the way my mother got over the fear of being “old”. I remember her at her 80th birthday party telling me that somewhere inside she still feels 30. She didn’t lose her youth; it is still a part of who she is. She just didn’t buy into the myth that is it the ONLY worthwhile part of her.
Relationships are another way we are tested and taught how to deal with our fear of change. There is an element of completion there too. My marriage ended when the relationship with my husband was completed. We had shared and learned what we came together to learn and then we parted. I am not saying it was easy. But now I can see that it was complete. There was no longer a reason to be together.
One of my biggest lessons about change came when Erik, my best friend and teacher, died. His death felt like a huge loss. This was not a change that I welcomed or accepted easily. But I never lost him or our relationship. Yes, things changed. Our relationship in the material world was complete. We had completed all we needed to or could do in this dimension. But our connection was not lost. Ours changed into a spiritual relationship which is at least as satisfying, if not more so, than the old one. My current relationship with Erik is exciting and I have so much more to learn from him. Erik is still actively working as my teacher. The transition was not an easy one to make, and not something I would choose to do again, but I still have Erik in my life. And, thankfully, I no longer see his passing as an unbearable loss.
This has taught me to see the gifts that come with change. When a job ends, it is because I have done all I can there, learned all I need to and am ready for greater things. When something of mine gets stolen or lost, I realize I no longer need that thing and am ready for something greater. The same is true with friendships. I am beginning to see that change does not equal loss.
At some point we will all face our last major change: our death. Maybe instead of losing our life, we can complete it. I think our time on Earth is up when we either have completed our purpose or have given up on it. Given a choice, I think completion is the way to go. I am here in the Yucatan, Heart of the Ancient Maya World, for a reason. I intend to keep following my path, learn what I can from all the change in my life, work on my purpose, and do my best. When this life is over, I hope to be able to say I did what I came here to do, and to accept that my life isn’t just over, it is complete.
Posted: May 14th, 2012 under Personal Experiences.
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Maybe belonging to the Universe in this way put them in contact with resources, beings, and information that we can’t access if we insist on being so Earth-bound.


